Comments on: Sleep http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/ Tue, 04 Oct 2011 00:22:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Shaun http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/comment-page-1/#comment-10799 Shaun Mon, 27 Aug 2007 04:08:35 +0000 http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/#comment-10799 @Gerry: Being childless doesn't mean you can't have an opinion about raising children. You have a good point. I never thought of the "method" in that way. Seeing as just about everything else you do while pregnant (not me of course) and taking care of a baby is mostly common sense it makes sense to do what feels best or at least go which way doesn't knowingly cause friction. If I ever get through my dozens of books awaiting me in the other room I'll give Wolff a try. My free time has dropped to a bare minimum (hence the late reply). @Jessie: It's funny that even when speaking with other parents you don't hear much about sleeping arrangements. It just doesn't come up in conversation and some people don't like to announce that they sleep with their kids in their bed, as if it is not acceptable. @sarah: Sounds like the both of you have given this raising kids thing some thought. It might just be time to put that knowledge to good use. ;) @Gerry: Being childless doesn’t mean you can’t have an opinion about raising children. You have a good point. I never thought of the “method” in that way. Seeing as just about everything else you do while pregnant (not me of course) and taking care of a baby is mostly common sense it makes sense to do what feels best or at least go which way doesn’t knowingly cause friction. If I ever get through my dozens of books awaiting me in the other room I’ll give Wolff a try. My free time has dropped to a bare minimum (hence the late reply).

@Jessie: It’s funny that even when speaking with other parents you don’t hear much about sleeping arrangements. It just doesn’t come up in conversation and some people don’t like to announce that they sleep with their kids in their bed, as if it is not acceptable.

@sarah: Sounds like the both of you have given this raising kids thing some thought. It might just be time to put that knowledge to good use. ;)

]]> By: sarah http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/comment-page-1/#comment-10790 sarah Sun, 26 Aug 2007 19:15:01 +0000 http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/#comment-10790 gerry took the words right out of my mouth. gerry took the words right out of my mouth.

]]> By: Jessie http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/comment-page-1/#comment-10770 Jessie Sat, 25 Aug 2007 16:44:51 +0000 http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/#comment-10770 I agree with what Ger said. I used to be the opposite until I spoke with some very well-rounded folks who raised their kids, sleeping together family-style, for many years. When their kids were ready for their own beds, they asked for them and it worked out great. If you're comfortable with the way that things are now, then don't go through any of the torment and guilt that can be caused to change it. If you lived in a cave and it was still back in the day, you'd all be sleeping together.... I agree with what Ger said. I used to be the opposite until I spoke with some very well-rounded folks who raised their kids, sleeping together family-style, for many years. When their kids were ready for their own beds, they asked for them and it worked out great.

If you’re comfortable with the way that things are now, then don’t go through any of the torment and guilt that can be caused to change it. If you lived in a cave and it was still back in the day, you’d all be sleeping together….

]]> By: Gerry http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/comment-page-1/#comment-10745 Gerry Fri, 24 Aug 2007 16:26:23 +0000 http://xiaoniu.org/2007/08/24/sleep/#comment-10745 Obviously being childless, I'm in no situation to have a valid opinion but I'm pretty against the ferber method. Let's put it this way, if you need a "method" to do something, it's probably because it's an unnatural arrangement. If family sleeping feels right, do it. If you all can sleep through the night, do it. Hell I don't like sleeping alone and I'm an adult and have a pretty firm grounding in reality. A defenseless child not knowing the ways of the world has to be pretty damn trusting (or oblivious to the world) to sleep alone I think. I'd say (and again no experience here to back me up) make a bed available to the child. If current sleeping arrangements get uncomfortable encourage the child to sleep in his/her own bed but let them know they can sleep w/ mom/dad if they need to (scared, bad dreams, etc) until they are comfortable on their own. I think when the child is ready for it, they'll do it on their own as long as the option is always open and encouraged. Just my $0.02. I read a fantastic book on subjects like this called the Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. I totally recommend it to everyone whether you want or are expecting children or not at all. I also recommend Original Wisdom by Robert Wolff. Or hell anything on this site for that matter: http://www.ishmael.com/Education/Readings/ I've got quite a few if you wanna borrow (I'm missing Continuum Concept tho, never got returned) -G Obviously being childless, I’m in no situation to have a valid opinion but I’m pretty against the ferber method. Let’s put it this way, if you need a “method” to do something, it’s probably because it’s an unnatural arrangement. If family sleeping feels right, do it. If you all can sleep through the night, do it. Hell I don’t like sleeping alone and I’m an adult and have a pretty firm grounding in reality. A defenseless child not knowing the ways of the world has to be pretty damn trusting (or oblivious to the world) to sleep alone I think.
I’d say (and again no experience here to back me up) make a bed available to the child. If current sleeping arrangements get uncomfortable encourage the child to sleep in his/her own bed but let them know they can sleep w/ mom/dad if they need to (scared, bad dreams, etc) until they are comfortable on their own. I think when the child is ready for it, they’ll do it on their own as long as the option is always open and encouraged.
Just my $0.02. I read a fantastic book on subjects like this called the Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff. I totally recommend it to everyone whether you want or are expecting children or not at all.
I also recommend Original Wisdom by Robert Wolff. Or hell anything on this site for that matter:
http://www.ishmael.com/Education/Readings/
I’ve got quite a few if you wanna borrow (I’m missing Continuum Concept tho, never got returned)
-G

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